In order to diagnose the mysteries that life typically encompasses, then you may need to radically rethink from outside the box, or even readily throw some realities into the mix.
Whether largely employed as a tool to avert blame or shirk from responsibility, or even simply used as a loophole whenever things go amiss, silence is mostly very dangerous, particularly under situations that demand some talks. It’s a sumptuous recipe for damage and a toxic contagion for taking situations south. This is why it’s very dangerous to remain silent when just saying few or some realities to contain matters or situations is necessary.
Here, in this article, I’m going to bring you some life realities that hold water, of course in a thrilling and daring fashion that blends realities and silence into a concentrated solution of typical life. So welcome to my show.
Maturity is not only by age
Typically, under normal circumstances, we are seen to attain maturity when we grow up to a certain age or size, or thereabouts. But this is sometimes at odds with what actually the case is. From the layperson point of view, age is the sole indicator for measuring maturity, but in a somewhat broader scope, you’d realize that maturity isn’t solely determined by age.
Maturity, aside from its affiliation with age, is a whole deal of responsibility, meaning and growth. This doesn’t only mean physical growth, but mental and social growth as well. So this is why when a supposed grownup of growth physique and age does or says some things that aren’t in conformity with the underpinnings of growth expectations, most people begin to question if they actually are mature. This is so because maturity has to be in harmony with age. So age isn’t the sole indicator when maturity is put on scale. So you shouldn’t refuse to grow up when you’ve grown up. If you do, it’s your own soup.
The world is a big wardrobe, everyone has their own costume
The human nature of wanting to be like someone else has always been there since humanity was at its childhood. That’s very normal. People will continue to be inspired by others for diverse reasons and immense purposes, and that inspiration can grow into motivation for a particular cause, which can ultimately yield a desired result for those very people. That’s still very normal because almost everyone derives inspiration from somewhere. But what’s not normal is when you try to be someone else instead of trying to be like them.
History has notable people. There are influential people in our generation. They can inspire you. You can develop and prepare yourself to be like them or even surpass them, but you cannot be them. It’s as plain and simple as that. And the more you try to be them, the more you may likely go off-track. So the best thing is to try “to be like them”, instead of trying “to be them”. So knowing that subtle difference is what counts. It’s what makes the true difference. Your costume is the only one that can fit you perfectly. So when I grow up, I wanna be like Mr. Batou.
You should not fish from your own pond
Lust is a whore. Temptation is a bitch. So it’s necessary we put them in check. Naturally, man is an animal. But the common sense we are given is what stands us out from brute animals. This is why we should utilize it, largely for our own good.
Whatever and whoever you’re, whether you put on skirt or trouser, it’s always very good if you control your emotions. Any time you lust after someone that you’re not married to, or in a consensual love relationship with, you should pour cold water on the fire building up within you, much to your own good. No matter how confident or motivated you may be, there are things that aren’t worth trying. Even if you’d succeed, you might end up regretting that decision or action merely fueled by lust or temptation.
At worst, it’ll be too low to have a stroll on this avenue when your colleague or friend is involved. It’ll be too indecent to try rolling in the hay with your colleague or friend of the opposite sex. Decent and genteel people don’t lust after their colleagues, friends of the opposite sex, or those that they’re professionally connected to. Real people don’t seek carnal knowledge of these other people in reference because even the nose and eyes are very close to each other. Real people do not fish from their own ponds.
Sometimes, even your best isn’t enough
Oftentimes, we are encouraged to try our best in whatever good we do. We’d often try that best and go ahead to hope for the best again, the best that we aren’t even sure would come. Whether this makes trying one’s best meaningless, or it makes it a futile rendition of hard work, sometimes, it ends up as an insufficient exercise, unfortunately.
Maybe you can understand it this way. In this ongoing AFCON, Sierra Leone drew their first match against Algeria, the defending Champions of Africa. In their second outing, they went ahead to replicate another draw against Ivory Coast, a side that comprises notable stars like Zaha, arguably the best dribbler of the competition; Haller, the top scorer of the elite Champions League, alongside other fine players that play in the top leagues across Europe, a side that recently won the AFCON in 2015.
The Leone Stars were still rooted in the competition heading into their final group match against Equatorial Guinea, a win from which would’ve qualifed them to the Round of 16, or possibly even a draw, unfortunately, they lost that match by a goal to nil, after even failing the chance to convert a penalty. What followed that was their elimination. But we all know that they’ve really tried their best, even though their best wasn’t enough.
Coming back to our various individual normal lives, we all do a lot of things for growth, progress, success, and whatever. Sometimes, we succeed, and other times, we fail, albeit trying our best through and through. But that’s another mystery of life. So we must continue to always try our best. We must not quit. In Farewelling 2021, Decembering Last Decade, I told you that – winners do not quit, they just do things differently. So quiting isn’t an option, at least for winners.
Opinions don’t imply facts
In this contemporary world of disarray, we would continue to have split opinions on things. It’s colossally impossible to have everyone on the same edge on matters, things and whatnots. Some would remain sitting on the fence, whereas others would be starkly at odds with the whole thing in hand. That human nature of entitlement to one’s opinions is somewhat evergreen. This is why some people are notoriously opinionated.
If you always think that your opinions are true and other people’s opinions are false, then that’s delusion of grandeur. If you also think that whatever you do is always right and enough at the expense of others who do similar things, then that’s delusion of adequacy. And if you still think that it always has to be only you amidst everyone else, then that has gone beyond every form of delusion – that is “sikungto!”
However, no matter what you think about something, as long as you don’t know it, whatever you’d advance about it, odds are high that you’re likely giving your opinion about it. And that opinion wouldn’t necessarily be fact, at least not before you confirm your proposition. So thinking that your opinion is true would somehow make you opinionated to a certain extent. Thus, until after they’re proven, opinions are opinions, and facts are facts. That’s the case in the underpinnings of my show.
You need good luck more than hard work
Hard work is basically overrated. Good luck is so sexy. If you have the diameter that divides good luck and hard work skewing to your side, chances are high that you’re gonna succeed in that particular something that you’re into. This doesn’t justify that good luck is a pearl in the discourse that involves hard work – because it isn’t readily guaranteed. So striking that balance between either extremes while giving it your best is the almighty approach. Sorry if that sounds incomprehensible, sometimes, the thin line between understanding and misunderstanding is too thin to see through.
This is not to deter anyone from working hard. In fact, hard work pays off than intelligence by far. But good luck is also in its own league. The fact that it isn’t promised somehow sends its sexiness into excess, making it a whore. Ah, but who cares if it won’t lose its sugar at molecular level? After all, O Level is an O Level.
I encourage that you work hard, pray, and hope for the best. “Maybe success is just at the corner,” that’s what Oustas Kah used to tell us at alma mater.
Batou Saidy holds a degree in Public and Environmental Health. He’s a Public Health Officer and a writer. He’s also a football fanatic and a Manchester United aficionado.